And personally I am sick and tired of people saying, “well why don’t you just put the child up for adoption instead of aborting it?”
For one, pregnancy and labor are among the hardest things the human body has to go through. It is no walk in the park. It is not easy. It is a huge deal. You have to change your entire lifestyle for 9+ months. You gain weight like crazy. Your immune system is compromised. Your life is at risk. Not to mention the social stigma that comes with being pregnant in certain social situations. Adoption does not fore go any of this. And the costs associated with just an uneventful pregnancy are astronomical let alone a pregnancy with complications. Abortion is the alternative to pregnancy. A person does not want to remain pregnant they get an abortion and that is their right. Their bodily autonomy dictates it to be so.
For two, I cannot speak for all countries, but at least in the U.S., the foster care/ adoption system is severely flawed. Single people cannot adopt. LGBTQ couples cannot adopt. There are thousands of children in the system that will be lucky if they are even considered for adoption. Why in the hell would I want to add another child to that? Why would I go through the trials and tribulations of pregnancy only to place a child in a severely flawed system and leave them with almost no hope of having a loving family? You call that love? You obviously have had no dealings with the system then.
Last but not least, when in the hell did it become the uterus-bearer’s job to carry children for those who cannot have them? Yes. If you cannot have a child of your own I am deeply sorry, but it is not my job nor the job of any other uterus-bearer to carry a child for you. If you want a child, there are children in the foster care/adoption system that need your love. If you don’t want o adopt one of those children, then you obviously do not want children as bad as you say you do.
I am going to leave you with this one more time, ADOPTION IS AN ALTERNATIVE TO PARENTHOOD NOT PREGNANCY!